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After suffering for over 4 years with menopausal issues with the help of the NHS in the UK…I thought I would try ‘private’ in Senegal.
Botched appointments, waiting times of over 2 hours, refusals to scan even when picked up by ambulance, losing my notes before an operation to ascertain if I have cancer….4 fucking years of pain and uncertainty and more than that…absolutely no concern for my well being.
Somehow, lefties like me just don’t do private on principle in the UK. So the decision to seek ‘private’ in Senegal, albeit the only option here, still felt weird.
Well I went yday and within 45 minutes of an appointment with a beautiful, intelligent Black Woman -Senegalese-Gynae: the problem was pin pointed, evidenced with a scan, strategised and medicated…
The relief is indescribable. And to the tune of just under 60 English pounds.
This is some of my friends responses, reading about my problems at work. Reading their reactions helped me see that I am normal. That its these ignorant people that have the problem.
I started to doubt myself after remote fighting with my bosses all week via email and phone call and wondered if I have the problem. If I’m just overreacting. If I’m just another crazy, paranoid black person with a chip on my shoulder. Coz I’m the minority and I dare not mention that.
All in 24 hours. When my boss told me my tone was threatening, when my bosses boss told me I misread the tone of the initial email, when I was blamed by my boss that 3 parents complained about me in the space of 20 minutes without hearing my side, when the Head Teacher emailed me some comment about not being bothered about my physical health that I had told her about coz she gave me the impression that she cared, when my boss incorrectly told her boss that I had not created any resources for my students coz she didn’t look for them, when my bosses boss insisted having an 8am meeting with me knowing I’m I’ll…I wonder who is UNPROFESSIONAL.
I can write a book–a series of books–on white microaggressions in the workplace. It’s fatiguing. It really batters you psychologically
Sad but true and you are not the only one dealing with this scenario (as you know). The difference is you have made a choice to get out of the system. Not everyone has that confidence, inner strength or means to make the necessary change. Also, I feel that there is this kind of micro aggression and unconscious-bias wherever you go. People will always feel threatened by others whether it’s the way you speak, your privilege etc. I had it in Jamaica!! But it’s about doing something about ones situation and that would always be my advice 👍🏽
Yep, honey. We know exactly what you are talking about.
Right don’t give the bosses reason to let you go also. Leave on your own terms
It’s very frustrating and I see this a lot. Even where I work now. Not believing a black managers point over the white support staff. You handled it very well though your response was very well executed I was talking to a teacher friend (Nigerian lady)She is so fed up with the blatant racism in the school. A real problem and demotivating but you have to know how to deal with it and play them at their own game, and I think you handled it well 👏🏽 I normally tell them they are being aggressive to me and I feel they are confrontational before they get a chance to say it back. I hope it goes well tonight though like you said. All positive to keep them quiet 🤐 I think you have to stay true to yourself. Your good at your job and perhaps part of the reasons they are having such problems with students and results is because of reasons like this. The good thing is that when your ready to teach in Africa they will love you there. My friend owns a school in Abuja. She would love to have you. If you did plan to leave in Senegal. Luckily you have options
Yes, this can and does happen in the school world. For me, it has not necessarily been linked to white women but have experienced it, esp from young, white intimidated woman but supported by a black man!!
Interesting read. It’s definitely a white and class thing. My white woman boss from my past school was very judgemental till she saw that I was good at the job and professional. After that, she had my back.
This person has clearly stated that you are not doing your job properly as there seems to be a problem with your standard of work and your not carrying out the the basic register checks. it would of been more professional that she had come and discuss the problem before jumping to conclusions, also that she would rather listen to others more than to come to you directly…it sounds as if she wants to belittle you to show her power…but always remember that the belittling words from this person is the only power they have over you, don’t let this dampen your self esteem your bigger than this trivial competition. Love the way you responded by showing that you aware of your your surroundings and is capable of carrying out your role and your quiet confident when doing so..